20 Tips for Guys at the 1st Date

EN:

One evening, or morning, take it as you will, I was catching up with some buddies.

It wasn't long until we started talking about my blog. Then, with the deepest curiosity, I asked: "What would you like to read on Dyrogue?"

They gave me a bunch of ideas and this is what one said.

Smiling to my ears I bursted with a loud "why not?" and look at me, a few evenings later, writing these lines.

I don't know if you need these tips, but a female opinion is always helpful.

Enough with the fooling around now! Let's get to work!

RO:

Eram intr-o seara, sau dimineata, depinde cum o privesti, cu niste tineri baieti la povesti.

N-a trecut mult pana sa vorbim despre blog, iar eu i-am intrebat cu cea mai adanca curiozitate: "Ce v-ar placea sa citi pe Dyrogue?"

Mi-au dat mai multe idei, iar asta a spus unul dintre ei.

Am zis zambind pana la urechi un " de ce nu?  " si uite-ma doua seri mai tarziu ma distrez copios scriind aceste randuri.

Nu stiu daca ai sau nu nevoie de asa ceva, dar o parere feminina mereu va conta.

Gata cu rimele! Sa trecem la treaba!


Couples

1. What's your plan?

You just picked her up. She smells divine and you want to keep her for a lifetime. Don't ruin it by asking "Okay, now what?". You have to know where you're taking her, what you're going to do and how you're going to get there! Show her this is important for you and that you gave it some thought.

If she insists on going somewhere else, have it her way. But make her promise to let you pick the spot for the 2nd date.

Ai ajuns dupa ea, miroase divin si vrei s-o pastrezi o viata. Nu strica tot cu intrebarea, "ce facem acum?". Tu trebuie sa stii ce faceti, unde mergeti si cu ce! Arata-i ca ai pus pret pe intalnirea aceasta si ca vrei sa iasa bine.

Daca ea insista sa mergeti altundeva, lasa dupa ea numai daca-ti promite ca la al 2-lea date poti sa alegi tu locul.

2. Do your homework

Try to find out as much as you can about her before you meet up. With today's social networks it really isn't that hard. Look for her favorite spots to get an idea of her tastes. BUT don't take her there! Nope. You want to keep things on neutral grounds. You can't risk her being intimidated or distracted by friends she could run into.

Chose a venue where you think she has never been to, so she'll always thinks of your date when she visits again. If you already know the menu then it's even better! You can recommend her what to get, like the best hot chocolate or the most delicious dessert!

You're already one step ahead.

Incearca sa afli cate ceva despre ea inainte. Cu retelele sociale din ziua de azi nu e tocmai complicat. Afla in special unde ii place sa-si petreaca timpul, sa-ti poti face o idee despre gusturile ei. DAR nu o du acolo! Nu-nu. Nu vrei sa mergi pe terenul ei, ci pe sol neutru! Apoi, nu vrei sa se simta intimidata sau distrasa de prietenii pe care ar putea sa-i intalneasca acolo.

Alege un loc pe care crezi ca nu l-a mai vizitiat, asa incat sa-si aminteaca mereu ca acolo a fost intaia oara cu tine. Daca stii si meniul e si mai potrivit, pentru ca-i poti recomanda tu cea mai buna ciocolata calda sau cel mai delicios desert.

Deja esti cu un pas inainte.

3. Manners always do the trick

I know you know this already, but it's too important not to mention it.

Be a gentleman. Open the door for her, help her get her coat off and on, kiss her hand, hold her umbrella and so on. Do all these little gestures naturally. It's these details that will make a difference between you and the others.

Stiu ca stii asta deja, dar e prea important sa nu o mentionez.

Fi un gentleman. Deschide-i usa, ajut-o sa-si dezbrace si imbrace haina, saruta-i mana, tine-i umbrela si sa mai departe. Fa toate gesturile cu o naturalete fireasca. Aceste amanunte vor face diferenta intre tine si ceilalti.

 

4. Gifts?

You're finally going out with your Facebook crush and you want to make a her a gift. A bouquet or a box of truffles. - NO. No. No.

Do you want to look desperate?

If your date went well, then you can bring her something next time. Or better yet, not say anything for two days and deliver her a playful flower basket with an inside joke on a tiny note. ( Avoid roses until things get more serious. )

In sfarsit iesi cu febletea ta de pe Facebook si vrei sa-i arati ca o apreciezi cu un cadou. Un buchet de flori sau o cutie de ciocolata. - NU. Nu. Nu.

Vrei sa pari disperat?

Daca date-ul a iesit bine atunci poti sa-i aduci la a2-a intalnire o mica atentie, sau si mai bine, sa nu-i dai nici un semn urmatoarele doua zile, ci sa-i trimiti prin colet un buchetel jucaus cu un inside joke pe biletel. ( Evita trandafirii pana devine mai serios. )

5. What about you?

Show her you're interested! Let her do the talking - it will make her relax quicker and feel better. BUT don't switch topics without saying something to them. You don't want her feeling like she didn't get to know you at all, at the end of the night.

Oh, and you don't have to agree to everything she says, who thought you that?

Arata-i interes! Las-o pe ea sa vorbeasca mai mult - o va face sa se relaxeze mai repede si sa se simta mai bine. DAR nu lasa nici un subiect sa treaca fara sa-ti spui si tu partea. Nu vrei sa se incheie seara si ea sa realizeze ca defapt nu stie nimic despre tine.

Ah, si nu trebuie sa fi de acord cu tot ceea ce spune. Cine te-a invatat asta?

Couples and Wine

6. waiter! Drinks?

I know you think it's really manly to order a whisky on the rocks and you think you're going to blow her mind with your Chuck Bass attitude, but don't. You don't want her thinking you're an alcoholic. Share a bottle of wine. It will help with the nerves.

When you feel you're getting dizzy, stop drinking. If the night is going to end with a kiss, you're gonna regret not remembering it!

Desi ti-se pare masculin sa bei un whisky on the rocks si crezi ca o vei impresiona cu imaginea ta de Chuck Bass, mai bine n-o face sa creada ca esti alcoolic. Luati un vin si imparitit-l. Va va ajuta la emotii.

Cand simti ca te amesteste lasa-l jos. Daca se va termina seara intr-un sarut, crede-ma ca vrei sa ti-l amintesti!

7. Having a wing man

Don't be a coward. Go alone.

Nu fi las. Mergi singur.

8. is hard to get hard to stop?

You knew how to seduce her. You've been hard to get, but you gave her enough signals to keep her wanting more. Bravo! I must admit you're good, but here's the deal: What worked well until now, won't anymore. You already invited her out for a glass of wine, thus making it pretty clear there's enough interest on your side as well. If you'll keep being distant and cold, she'll start being too. Don't make the process of knowing each other even slower and more difficult by doing so! The truth is she'll never show her true face if you don't loosen up yourself.

Nice and slowly, show her she's been getting wrong all the mixt signals you've been giving her and that she's the one and only you're interested in..

Ai stiut cum sa o ademenesti. Ai fost inabordabil dar totusi i-ai dat putina atentie asa incat sa o tii in suspans. Bravo! Te pricepi si te felicit, dar uite care-i treaba. Ce a functionat pana acum nu mai merge la fel la prima intalnire. Acum ca ai chemat-o la un pahar de vin, e deja evident ca este un interes clar si de partea ta, iar daca vei continua sa fi rece si distant se va raci si ea. Nu ingreuna si incetini procesul. Adevarul e ca nu-si va arata adevarata fata nicidoata in preajma ta, daca nu vei lasa si tu de la tine.

Incet, incet arata-i ca nu e numai o alta intalnire si ca ti-a interpretat gresit mesajele mixte de pana acum. Tu defapt o vrei, pe ea si numai pe ea..

9. Jealousy works.. not

This is only true if you already hooked up and broken up. If you're trying to make her jealous on the first date she'll just think you're a schmuck and that's the end of you're story.

Better make sure you look great and behave well so that you'll catch the eye of other women in the room. Now that's something else!

Asta e valabil daca v-ati cuplat deja si v-ati despartit. Daca vei incerca s-o faci geloasa la prima intalnire va crede ca esti un fustangiu si aici s-a terminat povestea.

Mai bine asigura-te ca areti bine si te porti galant asa incat sa atragi privirile celorlalte femei din local. ASTA e altceva!

10. Compliments please!

You have to make her at least one compliment and tops 3. I'm serious. If you won't say something to appreciate her at all, she'll end up thinking you don't like her. If you over do it, they'll lose value.

Exercise the art of observation. Don't tell her she looks good. Say something more specific, but honest. What did you notice about her? Does she have a cute way of talking? A beauty spot? Does green match her eyes? Try to be creative, don't say cheesy stuff like "you have the most fabulous eyes I've ever seen", it will just sound fake even if it's true. Tell her you love her perfume and that her make-up is exquisite. Believe me, she really worked hard on looking so good for you tonight, so she deserves some appreciation.

Trebuie neaparat sa-i faci minim un compliment si maxim 3. Vorbesc serios. Daca nu o vei aprecia in nici un fel, va putea avea impresia ca nu o placi, iar daca-i faci prea multe, acestea isi vor pierde din valoare.

Exerseaza arta observatiei. Nu-i spune ca arata bine. Spune-i ceva mai specific, dar fi sincer. Ce ai observat? Are un tic verbal simpatic? O alunita? Ii sta bine in verde? Incearca sa fi mai creativ, nu-i spune ca are ochii superbi, va suna exagerat. Spune-i ca-ti place parfumul ei sau ca are un machiaj foarte frumos. Crede-ma, chiar s-a straduit sa arate bine pentru tine, asa ca merita s-o apreciezi.

Smart phone issue

11. Turn it off before you turn her off

Don't leave her staring at the walls while your scrolling down your Instagram feed. Put your phone on sleep or silent and don't lay it on the table. If she is doing it, then you either didn't get her interest or she's not the kind of girl you want to date anyway.

If you're waiting for a call then you have to ask her to excuse you. If it's your buddies calling, then don't scare the poor girl off with your guy talk, at least not on the first date.

If it's your parents, tell them nicely that you're on a date with this very special girl and that you're spearing the details for later. All girls are thrown away by the guys parent knowing about them, no matter their age!

Sa nu cumva sa o lasi sa se uite la pereti cat timp tu verifici Instagram-ul. Pune-l pe sleep, pe silentios si nu-l lasa pe masa. Daca ea o va face fie nu i-ai captat interesul, fie nu e genul de fata pe care ti-o doresti.

Daca astepti un telefon scuza-te neaparat inainte sa raspunzi. Daca te suna baietii, nu o speria pe biata fata cu povestile voastre, cel putin nu la prima intalnire.

Daca te suna parintii, vorbeste frumos si spune-le ca esti la o intalnire cu o fata speciala si ca le vei spune mai tarziu restul detaliilor. Orice fata e data pe spate daca stie ca parintii tai au aflat despre ea. - Nu conteaza varsta!

12. Money talk

If you really want to impress her with your financial status, then believe me, you don't need to say a word about it. Educated people really don't talk about money. Tell her your satisfied if she brings it up and leave it to that. If you're going to start bragging about it and giving numbers, or even worse, disconsider people you think are "poor" then she'll leave you running.

If you do impress her with your fancy numbers, then she's probably as superficial as you are.

Daca chiar vrei s-o impresionezi cu statutul tau financiar, crede-ma ca il va deduce fara sa fi nevoit sa spui vreun cuvant. Oamenii educati nu discuta niciodata despre sume. Spune-i ca esti multumit daca chiar se ajunge la subiect. Daca vei incepe sa te lauzi si vei mentiona sume precise sau si mai rau, vei desconsidera oamenii pe care tu-i consideri "saraci" atunci ea va fugi cat vezi cu ochii.

Daca o vei impresiona asa, atunci probabil e si ea la fel de superficiala ca si tine.

13. Spicy Topics

People say you should never talk about politics or religion on a date. I don't agree. The whole idea of going on a date it getting to know the other person as good as you can, including these defining traits of her character. I think it's crucial to know what interest her and how she makes sense of it. BUT don't start questioning her! Keep the conversation casual. Don't make her make decisions about her beliefs now, if she hasn't figured things out already.

Se spune ca politica si religia nu trebuie discutate. Eu sunt de alta parere. Ideea unui date este sa afli cat mai multe despre cealalta persoana, inclusiv opiniile care-i formeaza caracterul. Mi-se pare crucial sa afli ce o intereseaza si cum gandeste. DAR nu o chestiona! Testeaza terenul si pastreaza conversatia lejera. Nu o pune sa ia decizii de viata pe care nu le luase inainte!

14. Really off limits

Sex. Don't talk about sex. If she initiates the discussion, weird, but don't get in the details. No one wants to hear about your sexual fantasies on the first date mister Gray. If you do want a partner to talk these thing over, get an escort.

Sex. Nu vorbim despre sex. Daca initiaza ea subiectul, ciudat, dar nu intra in detalii. Nimeni nu vrea sa afle fanteziile tale sexuale de la prima intalnire, domnule Gray, iar daca simti nevoia sa le discuti, cauta o escorta.

15. Be the man!

Be in a good mood and packed with energy. Don't complain about anything. Living in Romania isn't that easy? You're friends are upsetting you? You've been sick? The cab driver stole your money? NO ONE wants to hear stuff like that on the first date! Keep you're problems to yourself, don't put them on her, if you don't want her to start with her lady dramas too.

Fi bine dispus si plin de energie. Nu te plange de nimic. Nu e atat de usor de trait in Romania pe cat ai vrea? Te supara prietenii? Ai fost bolnav? Te-a furat taximetristul? NU conteaza. Lasa-le pentru altii, nu o impovara pe ea cu problemele tale, nici ea n-o va face.

Movie night

16. Movie night

Although movie dates are prefered by many, it wouldn't be my first choice.. only if it ends up with a long walk or a stop at a pastry. You need to have a chance to talk more than commenting over the movie. I suggest you do this on your 2nd or 3rd date, when you already know each other better. It will give you an excuse to come up closer, to whisper in her ear. In the dark! But chose the film wisely!

I've been to a drama once with this guy and that was our last date, because the poor fellow couldn't stop my crying. Along with my mascara, the whole romance went down the drain.

Desi filmele sunt peferate pentru prima intalnire de multi, mie nu mi se par o idee buna, numai daca se continua intr-o plimbare lunga sau o oprire la o cofetarie. Trebuie sa aveti ocazia sa vorbiti mai mult decat un simplu comentariu peste actiunea filmului.
Lasa asta mai bine pentru o a 2-a sau a 3-a intalnire, dupa ce va cunoasteti deja. Iti va ofera un prilej bun sa te apropi mai tare, sa-i soptesti la ureche. In intuneric! Dar alege bine filmul!

Eu am fost o data la o drama cu un tip la primul date (si ultimul), iar saracul n-a mai siut cum sa ma opreasca din plans. O data cu rimelul s-a dus si romantismul.

17. EX- cluded

No Ex's! Under no circumstances. You don't want to give her the impression you're still in love with someone else, nor that you're the victim, nor that you're indifferent about all that, nor do you want to say bad things about her. Any woman will put herself in your ex's position. If you start disclosing intimate issues you had, you're in big trouble!

And beware! Women will want to bring this up just to test your answers. Be careful.

Fara fosti! Sub nici o circumstanta. Nu vrei sa pari in continuare indragostit de altcineva, nici sa-ti plangi de mila, nici sa pari cu totul indiferent sau mai rau, sa o vorbesti de rau. Orice fata se va pune in pozitia fostei, iar daca tu vei impartasi detalii intime despre voi, ai dat-o grav in bara.

Si fi atent! Femeile vor aduce subiectul acesta doar ca sa-ti testeze raspunsurile. Ai grija!

17. who's paying?

I'm so sorry to say this, but in most cases it's on you. Yes, yes, I know it's unfair, but that's how it is. Do you want to impress her, or not? Be charming and tell her you'll take care of the bill. Don't let her see the prices and don't get to proud about paying it off.

Some ladies will insist on paying their part. There are these women that adore feeling independent and don't want to be protected by you. She doesn't even know you yet. But this is what you're going to do: tell her that you'll pay for this bill and that she can pay for the ice cream you've just invited her to have. Okay?

If you don't want to spend too much then invite her to a coffee or a walk in the park, not a dinner!

Imi pare rau sa-ti spun, dar in cele mai multe cazuri ar trebui sa fi tu acela. Da, da, stiu ca nu e cinstit, dar asa se cade. Vrei sa o impresionezi sau nu? Fi non chalant si spunei ca vei avea tu grija de bon. Nu o lasa sa vada nota finala, nu te da mare ca o platesti.

Cateodata domnisoara din fata ta va insista sa-si plateasca ea partea. Sunt fete care adora independenta si nu vor sa fie ocrotite de tine, in special ca inca nu va cunoasteti. Dar uite cum ai putea sa faci: spune-i ca de data asta platesti tu, dar ca mergeti la o inghetata pe care o poate plati si alege ea. Okay?

Daca nu vrei sa cheltui foarte mult, atunci chem-o la o cafea sau la o plimbare, nu la o cina!

Couples kiss

19. the kiss

You're not in movies. Who said you have to kiss her on the first date?

If you see that she's craving it though, then you can keep the butterflyes in her tummy awake for a little longer just for the beauty of the emotions.

If you only want a one night stand, then why not? Suit yourself, as long as you make it clear that you're not after anything serious, right from the start.

And if, by chance, she is the one and you can't help yourself any longer, then YES! Kiss her now like she's never been kissed before! I don't know what girl would mind such a kiss, as long as it's delicate, thoughtfull and intense.

Don't act like you kissed her by mistake and don't ask for her permission. Touch her face gently before leaning in too close. If she dosen't clinch to the opposite site - that's your sign! Go for it! Be serious about it and kiss her now before you're guts don't wear out. Don't kiss her too long tough and smile before you come apart. If you feel her smiling too against your lips, then you know you're the one for her too.

Nu esti in filme. Cine a zis ca trebuie sa o saruti la prima intalnire?

Daca vezi ca e dornica sa te sarute, atunci ii vei prelungi fluturasii in stomac daca mai amani putin..

Daca vrei numai un one night stand, atunci da, de ce nu? Incearca-ti norocul, dar fa-o sa inteleaga ca nu e nimic serios de la bun inceput.

Si totusi, daca stii ca e aleasa si nu te m poti abtine. Atunci DA! Sarut-o cum n-a mai fost sarutata vreodata. Nu stiu ce fata s-ar supara ca indraznesti, atata timp cat e delicat, atent si intens.


Nu te prefa ca o faci din greseala si nu-ti cere voie. Atinge-i maxilarul incet inainte. Daca nu-si intoarce capul in cealalta directie, atunci bingo, acesta e semnul! Fi serios si sarut-o acum pana nu-ti pierzi curajul. Nu il lungi prea tare si zambeste inainte sa va despartiti buzele. Daca simti ca si ea zambeste atunci stii ca si tu esti alesul ei.

20. Be yourself..

and you just might get this:

si ai putea avea si tu asta:

Couples love