The Little Things
Let me tell you a bit about my day. It started badly: I overslept, forgot my phone at home and was already late for my exam. Although forgetting my smartphone seemed to be the most annoying thing on the planet, it actually got really pleasant, after getting used to not taking my phone out of my bag every time I had to wait. All of the sudden, I had so much free time on my hands!
I finished the exam and the day was already getting better. Pleased with my answers, I told my best friend to stay for a drink somewhere, at a fancy venue. But plans changed after we've past by a fruit and veggies shop in our towns center. Big, juicy cherries caught our eyes. We bought a kilo and sat down in a park to indulge. We didn't move 'till the they were all over!
Then, taking a pen and a scribble book I carried around with me, for about a week, I started noting all the little things that had brightened up my day,
There were tiny birds surrounding us, my very best friend beside me and there was so many things I had to be grateful about.
I've promised myself to do this exercise daily..
A psychologist at TED talked about happiness. We shared opinions on the subject, so I decided to take his advice and play along. He believed that there are mostly inner experiences, than outer circumstances, that make us feel happy or fulfilled.
He recommended every subject of his study, write down at least 3 things every day, for 3 weeks, that brought them joy. It could be anything, from a green light to a hug or a song. Anything they had usually taken for granted. The expert noticed, that after having his subjects do this exercise on a regular basis, their brain developed a pattern. They started observing - not only the world surrounding them, but themselves, as well. Even after not being obliged to write down such things, they continued making mental notes about what they've noticed during the day. They would get conscious of they're senses and of all the lucky coincidences they usually never noticed.
I dare you to do this exercise with me!
Today, I wrote down 4 things:
Sa va povestesc putin despre ziua de astazi. A inceput prost: M-am trezit prea tarziu, mi-am uitat telefonul acasa si eram deja in intarziere la examen. Desi nu am crezut ca exista ceva mai enervant in lumea asta, decat sa-mi uit telefonul, a ajuns sa mi se para chiar.. placut. Asta, dupa ce m-am obisnuit sa nu-l mai caut, de fiecare data cand aveam un moment de asteptat. Am realizat ca, dintr-o data, aveam o gramda de timp liber!
Dupa ce am iesit de la examen, ziua deja s-a imbunatatit considerabil. Incantata ca am stiut raspunsurile, i-am spus prietenei mele cele mai bune, sa ramanem la o terasa sa ne cinstim cu un cocktail rece. Planurile s-au schimbat subit, cand am trecut pe langa un stand cu cirese zemoase, amenintator de coapte. Am cumparat un kilogram si nu ne-am ridicat de pe o bancuta din parc, pana nu le-am terminat pe toate!
Apoi mi-am scos un pix si carnetelul pe care il port dupa mine de vreo saptamana, si am notat toate lucrurile marunte care m-au incantat astazi. Cu vrabiutele in jur si o prietena adevarata in dreapta mea, mi-am dat seama ca sunt atatea lucruri de care sa bucur.
Mi-am promis sa fac exercitiul acesta in fiecare zi..
Am aflat despre el de la un psiholog venit la TED, care a vorbit despre fericire. Pentru ca discursul lui mi-a placut enorm si pentru ca imparteam aceleasi pareri, m-am hotarat sa incerc si eu o parte din studiul lui.
Pornind de la ideea, ca fericirea depinde mai degraba de un proces interior, decat de circumstantele exterioare, i-a indrumat pe participantii studiului, sa noteze zilnic, timp de 3 saptamani, minim 3 lucruri care le-au adus bucurie in ziua respectiva. Putea fi orice, de la un semafor prins la verde, la o imbratisare sau o piesa. Expertul a sesizat ca participantii au inceput un tipar mental. Acestia observau acum cu adevarat - atat lumea ce ii inconjoara, cat si adancurile sufletelor lor. Chiar si dupa ce s-a terminat exercitiul, acestia inca luau notite mentale cu coincidentele norocoase pe care le intampineau, devenind mult mai constienti de propiile simturi.
I-ati un carnetel si fa exercitiul cu mine!
Astazi am notat 4 lucruri:
I could have gone on and on with the list.. It made me feel amazing. I got so positive I even considered my forgotten phone a great event. If I had had it with me, I would have never gotten the chance to notice the cherries on my left or the nice old salesman on my right, selling incredible all-natural sirup. Getting lost in my apps would have erased two things on my little-things list I was so happy about.
Sometimes the light in our led screens blind us from the light outside. So open your eyes, readers! - There are millions of little things that wait for your attention.
Lista parca puteam sa o continui la nesfarsit.. M-am simtit extraordinar cand am terminat-o! Am devenit atat de pozitiva, inca mi se parea asa o bucurie ca imi uitasem telefonul. Daca-l aveam cu mine, n-as fi sesizat ciresele din stanga sau vanzatorul simpatic cu siropuri naturale, din dreapta. Pierduta printre aplicatii, as fi ratat doua dintre punctele listei mele de detalii fericite.
Lumina ecranelor noastre ne orbeste cateodata, de lumina de afara. Asa ca deschide-ti ochii, cititori! - Sunt milioane de lucruri marunte care asteapta sa fie bagate in seama.
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